Shallow...

I'm not shallow. You're just ugly. 

I've talked on here before about standards. Everyone is entitled to them, and I, personally have no problem with them. A lot of people who may happen to be on the lower end of the 10-rating scale often complain about how the person they're obsessing over is "shallow" and only goes after physically attractive people who constantly hurt and disappoint them. Maybe they should try the other side? I found myself guilty of this misguided theory when I was younger, but I realized that honestly, it got me nowhere. It was just an excuse to blame someone else for my personal problems.

"But, Sonata, it sounds like you're blaming the victim here," you say. "Being shallow is bad."

To which I reply, then don't be shallow. If you were to rewind things a little for some of those attractive people, you'll notice one thing about that person that they're pining over. That person will be attractive. It's basically you asking someone else to do something that you yourself aren't willing to do. If what they need in their lives are people with gorgeous faces, chiseled abs, and plump, but tight buns, so be it. They're shallow. Pining over a shallow person and being upset when you find out they're not just going to stop being shallow over night gets you nowhere. What you need to do is get your head out of the head cheerleader's ass, and start chasing some mathletes.

There is nothing wrong with having physical standards, unless those physical standards bring you nothing but loneliness. If your standards are so high that you're always alone because you can't find a woman who treats you like your mom and looks like the girl next door, then maybe it's time to adjust fire and reevaluate some of your life decisions. But, just because you're physically attracted to one type of person or another doesn't mean you're shallow and embody everything bad in the world. Physical features are all we have to go on, most of the time, when deciding to pursue someone. If that person doesn't meet your standards, it's fine to go ahead and throw them on the back-up roster until your desperation to find someone rises in direct proportion to your standards falling and somehow, that chubby chick who you talked to just to wingman for your friend starts to look a lot slimmer.

   ---Desperation

---Standards

Being able to enjoy looking at the person that you spend most of your time with is a pretty big deal. So if you don't care, what your partner looks like, that's awesome for you, you are the next level of human evolution. But if someone does care, and they just can't get with the whole, viper-fish teeth thing, then don't make them out to be the monster for having standards. 

"Once I get these braces, she'll see me for the nice guy that I really am."

Old Hoes...

Why can't a man be a slut?

This is a question that I've been asked by women as we debate the concept of male and female equality. But that's not what I'm going to talk about today. I will answer the question though,

"A man can't be a slut because you won't call him one." 

I personally don't think anyone should take the word slut to offense. It means, according to my opinion, (the only one that matters) that you're a person who not only enjoys sex, but have no problem sharing that with someone else. In our modern, highly secular (increasingly non-religious) generation, it's kind of insane that women still get looked at as if they have less value for having as many sex partners as a man would. 

I've met a good amount of sluts in my day, some I've spent a night with, some that I haven't. They're usually some of the coolest women you could talk to. They're not afraid to talk about the more mature things, they're not kidding themselves or anyone else, and they're always ready to teach you a thing or two. These are the women who've lived a little. learned a little. And might have had a few more sexual partners than me. And my best friend. And all of my brothers. Combined.

I'm not saying this is some kind of representation of the number of penises. But it's not far off.

A special group of women in the slut category are the former sluts. I love these women. The women in this category have enjoyed themselves, made mistakes, and had fun. They've taken risks and would take them again in the right situation. They're adventurous and experienced.

The reason I appreciate them so much is that they're usually wise in some way, sexy in some way, know what they want, and know what a man wants. I've been in a relationship with a girl who admitted she used to be a little bit loose in the caboose. Granted I declined any offer for stories or examples, but it made a difference. All of my needs were met, and as a person, you usually don't get a better personality. She was fun, adventurous, and kind. Things didn't work out for one reason or another, but it wasn't related to her past, and we parted on very friendly and mature terms.
Men and women can both be sluts, this is true. But women can grow out of it. They can have their "phases" and move on and learn from them. Men are the ones who have the harder time killing those old habits. 
For men and women, if your partner has a past, learn to accept it. It's better that they did it before you, than after you. So show those old hoes some love. Because, let's face it, you'd probably still be a virgin without them.