What do you deserve?
That's it. There are no more clues or hints to it.
What do you deserve?
Your friends will say you deserve the best. You don't deserve the bad things that happen to you. You deserve good things to happen to you because you're a good person. And that can be true, but wouldn't your enemies object pretty hard to that?
I don't know if you deserve "better" than what you're getting, but I know that you deserve what you work for. A lot of people automatically think that when someone does something bad to them, like cheating on them, or eating all of the bag fries, that they deserve the exact opposite of that, if they've done nothing wrong. And sure, a lot of you deserve a bag fry or two, but what have you done to get them all. You may not deserve to be cheated on, but what have you done to prove you're worth being exclusive to?
The worst kind of person is the person who believes that just existing is enough to warrant the best from other people. I have yet to encounter a woman who was cute enough in the face, or sexy enough in the body, or rich enough in the bank account for it to no longer matter how they treated other people. This situation has always been in the back of my mind when it came to dating. The balance of power from men to women is always so far off, and not being at least a 7 on the 0-10 rating scale makes it even worse. In most developed countries, dating goes as such:
Man likes woman, man asks woman out on date.
Woman likes man. Woman signals man to ask her out on date in every way except words.
Man and woman go out on date.
Man provides transportation
Man is funny
Man is entertaining
Man picks fun place to go
Man pays for meal- GO -NO GO
Man seeks to split checkGO - NO GO
At the end of these exasperating dates, one of a few things happens. Either they hit it off so well, and the man was so charming that they go back to a set location and....
Or he did well, but not well enough...
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Or he didn't do well and... well, nothing. This situation may vary, but the majority of the time, that's what you get. This is how it works for average looking guys. Of course, if you look like Chris Evans, the world might look a little different for you. I've always been bothered by this offset because I've always known what it was that I had to offer the world. I'm a writer, I'm an artist, I'm a poet. I'm funny, I'm interesting, I'm open-minded. And I had to lay this ALL out on the table for women to deem worthy and unworthy, only to find out later, that she's this boring, closed-minded idiot, and I've just wasted time and money on yet another dead end.
"But it's a buyers market," they would tell me, "and you have to play by their rules." This infuriated me. But it was true. These guys were delivering for free while I sat in the restaurant hoping for someone to come outside in this snow storm. I know that I have a lot to offer, and that life's unfair when you're less than rich and just under beautiful. But all we can hope for is that one day, we meet that special someone who is ready to work for everything that you think that they deserve.
I don't know if you deserve "better" than what you're getting, but I know that you deserve what you work for. A lot of people automatically think that when someone does something bad to them, like cheating on them, or eating all of the bag fries, that they deserve the exact opposite of that, if they've done nothing wrong. And sure, a lot of you deserve a bag fry or two, but what have you done to get them all. You may not deserve to be cheated on, but what have you done to prove you're worth being exclusive to?
The worst kind of person is the person who believes that just existing is enough to warrant the best from other people. I have yet to encounter a woman who was cute enough in the face, or sexy enough in the body, or rich enough in the bank account for it to no longer matter how they treated other people. This situation has always been in the back of my mind when it came to dating. The balance of power from men to women is always so far off, and not being at least a 7 on the 0-10 rating scale makes it even worse. In most developed countries, dating goes as such:
Man likes woman, man asks woman out on date.
Woman likes man. Woman signals man to ask her out on date in every way except words.
Man and woman go out on date.
Man provides transportation
Man is funny
Man is entertaining
Man picks fun place to go
Man pays for meal- GO -
Man seeks to split check
At the end of these exasperating dates, one of a few things happens. Either they hit it off so well, and the man was so charming that they go back to a set location and....
Or he did well, but not well enough...
Or he didn't do well and... well, nothing. This situation may vary, but the majority of the time, that's what you get. This is how it works for average looking guys. Of course, if you look like Chris Evans, the world might look a little different for you. I've always been bothered by this offset because I've always known what it was that I had to offer the world. I'm a writer, I'm an artist, I'm a poet. I'm funny, I'm interesting, I'm open-minded. And I had to lay this ALL out on the table for women to deem worthy and unworthy, only to find out later, that she's this boring, closed-minded idiot, and I've just wasted time and money on yet another dead end.
"But it's a buyers market," they would tell me, "and you have to play by their rules." This infuriated me. But it was true. These guys were delivering for free while I sat in the restaurant hoping for someone to come outside in this snow storm. I know that I have a lot to offer, and that life's unfair when you're less than rich and just under beautiful. But all we can hope for is that one day, we meet that special someone who is ready to work for everything that you think that they deserve.
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