Reservations...

I've seen too often, that people will waste their time waiting for someone to meet them at a point in a relationship, when that person has shown no progress for getting there. There's nothing wrong with having faith, but there comes a time where you're going to have to check your history and figure out whether or not you need to pick up that "Reserved" sign from the table. I've been guilty of asking for someone to give me time to get to a point where I felt ready, but do I really deserve it? No.
That's because I don't believe in "Soul Mates" or "the One." Six billion people. There are Six Billion people on planet Earth. People have found their wives and husbands overseas, in other countries and continents, or right next door, and have found something in those people that they never even knew they wanted.
That's all to say that sometimes, you can give up on a relationship if it's not going in the direction you want it to. Most of you are decent people and deserve a little happiness, and most of the time, if you're waiting around for someone to get their shit together, you definitely deserve better.
But that's not where it stops. What if you're in a relationship with someone who deliberately refuses to do something that would make you happy? What if you want your chair pulled out, and your doors opened for you? What if you like to cuddle up, and getting random kisses to show a little appreciation for you? Or even if you're a gift gal? You like to get physical tokens of love and appreciation, whether it be jewelry or an origami swan from a Panda Express napkin.
If someone knows what you want or need to be happy, but still can't or won't give it to you, there's no reason for you to wait around for them to change their mind, because for whatever it is you do for them, there's someone out there willing to make you happy being exactly who you are.
If you're the type of person who treats people like they owe you something, life is going to disappoint you. It's like any job. Sometimes people are willing and ready to invest in you, completely, but telling them to hold off and wait for you is selfish. If someone is willing to do the work that you're not, for the same amount of pay, do you genuinely think you still have a claim to that job? I'll give you a hint...

You're getting warmer...

You can't hope that someone is just going to blindly invest in you because you want them to, with a promise that it might pay off later, when you're ready. They deserve to find someone else. And when they do, bite your tongue and suck it up. Either get better, or get used to being alone.