I've seen it said that you need to find someone with similar interests, and I've heard it a million times "Opposites attract." Even those completely different view points fail to cover the actual reality of being a match made in heaven. The truth is, the important thing when it comes to hobbies, likes, and dislikes, is that the person you're with accepts them. They don't have to adopt them, they don't have to like them, they literally have to be okay with them. And not everything. Just the big stuff. For example, I'm all about comic book related cartoons and movies. I'm also into weightlifting, and fitness, and music. But what's important is that the girl I find myself with is okay with me and my comic book nerd-life. Everything else is second fiddle and can be put off. But you go telling me we need to see The Notebook 2 instead of Batman: Darkest Knight Rises to Begin this Dawn 3, and I'm just going to recommend you go ahead and reopen that Match.com profile and get those tickets for 1.
People who think that their soul mate has to be some kind of sexually attractive doppelganger, are missing out on the best parts of dating. You have the opportunity to intimately know a complete stranger and everything about them. The best times I've ever had dating were finding out that a person who, on the surface was COMPLETELY different from me shared so many little interests with me. Wasn't good or bad, and sometimes it helped the relationships, and other times it didn't. But it was the adventure of getting to know someone new and different and broadening my horizons to find out things I never knew about myself. And them, as a person, their mannerisms, personality, and every day character traits drew me closer to them. Not our mutual love for rock collection and organization.
And when it comes to the whole opposites attract scenario... I don't know. I'm a fairly intelligent and open minded person, so my opposite is basically...
Nah, I think I'll just jerk it.
Not saying that the opposites attract theory of operations can't work. I'm just saying that the number of relationships that I've seen where the couple's complete lack of compatibility was justified only with that bullshit phrase is TOO DAMN HIGH! (I'm not really that passionate about the subject. Not capslock passionate, anyway.) The truth of the matter is the opposites attract theory only works if it's something neither person actually notices until someone else brings it up. It's not something you say when you notice that literally everything your partner does outside of the bedroom makes you want to murder them with a shovel put them in a wood chipper, and feed them slowly to your sea turtles.
The worst thing I've noticed about people looking for that perfect match is that they piece together this image of some girl with medium breasts, a slim waist, and a big butt, with brown hair and green eyes, half Italian and half German, 5'7" tall, who cooks cleans, and dreams about being the first grandmother on Mars. That's how you get hung up on the wrong things, and end up with the wrong person for the wrong reason. The only thing you should bring from your past experiences are what you don't like, because you never know what amazing things you're missing out on when you limit yourself to the same types of people for the rest of your life. The world outside of your bubble is actually pretty amazing.
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