People often blame the media for their self-esteem problems. They say the media dangles supermodels in their faces on ads and in commercials. They say that this is what the media is "brainwashing" them to believe is beauty and sexy. But that's not true. The media only uses things you already think is attractive, or what's attractive to the mass majority to get the message across that their product can either contribute to you being attractive, or in the case of fast food, that their product isn't a direct link to unattractiveness.
At no point do they tell you in Victoria's Secret commercials "Get slimmer to fit into the new fall line of Victoria's Secret bras and panties." No. Any woman who can't fit into Victoria's Secret's sizes either considers them assholes for not making more sizes, or feels like they are trying to subliminally tell them to lose weight. Or both. But if you think that, then you're not happy with who you are. And that's not the fault of the advertisements or the media. It's not the fault of "society" or even the guys in the bar who go for your friend instead of you.
If you're bigger or smaller than most women, it's not society's job to make you feel comfortable in your own skin. When you look in the mirror, you need to learn to be happy with what you see. That doesn't mean you have to be happy with being overweight or underweight. If you want to be slimmer, then there's absolutely nothing wrong with that. If you want to gain weight, or change something about yourself because that's what makes you happy, there's nothing wrong with that at all. You just have to be ready to work towards it. If you're slim, eat more, (and you might want to exercise so that you can maintain control of weight gain and distribution), and if you're not as slim as you want to be, you eat better, and exercise. You won't get instant results. Not every cure to every problem is instantaneous. But, you will see progress. And every time you look in that mirror and see your progress, I guarantee you that you will feel ten times better than when you didn't.
Society doesn't know what's best for you or what will make you happy. Not those diet nuts, or those big women on TV talking about being proud of being big. If you're happy being big, then congratulations. If you're happy being small, then congratulations. If you're happy somewhere in the middle, then congratulations. If you aren't happy looking like a supermodel, and instead you want to look like a centaur, you do what you have to to get those horse legs. Don't forget the penis though. It's probably the best part, like going from two legs to five.
The point is, it isn't the worst thing to want to change who you are. What's bad is not doing something about it and just giving up.Whether it's progress to where you want to be, or you are exactly where you want to be, the most important thing in life, is being happy with what you see in the mirror.
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